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Bob Lind, Echo Magazine wrote on 08/20/2009:

When I was reconciling my sexuality in my early 20's, at a time before there were real visible role models in the media or internet support sites, I lamented that it wasn't fair that being a homosexual didn't come with some kind of "instruction manual" one could follow. It took another 35 years, but I think today we finally have a book that is darned close to filling that need, despite the editor's introduction that suggests otherwise.

"Second Person Queer" - an anthology of 40 essays written by an extremely diverse group of GLBT authors - is the follow-up to the editors' "First Person Queer" 2007 anthology of personal memoirs by similar writers. This time around, the essays give advice to the budding gay party boy/bear/femme/dyke/bisexual/trans person, and some helpful guidance to those still questioning their sexuality. Coming in at an average of only five pages per essay, this is like getting 40 "second opinions" on what you may be doing, giving some ideas on how you may be able to do it better. The topics range from the finer points of being a "bear" or a "femme", to one that advises against deciding to "label" yourself at all. There is advice on dealing with parents, bigots, dating married bisexuals, coming out, relationships and falling in love. Despite the variety, the essays are arranged in a logical manner by theme. The reader soon realizes that we are all different, and although there may be no "one size fits all" answers, the information is witty, engaging, heartfelt and ultimately useful for many. I'll give this one four enlightening stars out of four.